What we say, What we mean

2018 · 4m · United Kingdom

Directed by Abigail Parmenter

Genres: drama

Tones: contemplative, melancholic, tender

Weaving in and out of the reality of a final argument, Cathy and Connor dig behind their harsh words to find what 'goodbye' truly means to them.

Picked by Margot

The scouts

It's a breakup film, sure, but watching Parmenter refuse the catharsis most people expect—no resolution, just the weight of two people finding language for something irreversible—is genuinely unsettling in the best way. She makes you sit in the space between what's said and what's meant without offering an escape hatch.

Felix

The formal architecture here is exquisite: the way reality and argument layer and separate, the precision of when we cut between surface and substrate—this is craft in service of form, the kind of editing choice that transforms a domestic moment into something structurally inevitable. It's the kind of short that programs next to Chantal Akerman.

Margot

The single choice that makes this breathe: Parmenter holds on the smallest face movements—a micro-pause before Connor speaks, the exact moment Cathy's jaw tightens—and suddenly a four-minute argument becomes this intimate excavation of what people don't say. It's restraint as technique.

Zoe

Reviews

A literal visual analogy of the title, Parmenter has the volatility of the street row juxtaposed with more emotional and sombre reflection as both characters lament on their mistakes. It's a strong showcase of scripting and acting as both Parmenter's words and the performances of Chris Reilly and Charly Burridge-Jones bring the character's to life so well.

UK Film Review — Corey Bulloch